一周前在朋友圈里看见一篇文章——《25岁,当妈妈?》。
在平均生育年龄为29.6岁的当下,文章收集了2438位女性的“生育观”。
令我惊讶的是,这些天天叫嚣着为爱豆生猴子的年轻女性,有过半的人面对生育这个问题格外谨慎。
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负荷着现实压力的她们,由于恐惧分娩带来的疼痛、隐形贫困以及担忧教育体系种种原因,对生育选择了抗拒态度。
她们更倾向于,在克服对疼痛的恐惧感或准备充分后,再去迎接小宝贝的到来。
恰巧几天前,人民日报也在微博上发布了一个关于“生育”的话题——“无痛分娩为什么难以推广”。
大部分网友认为,在当下,还持有分娩就应该承受痛苦的这种观念,其很大程度上受到传统思想的束缚、家庭环境的影响和客观医学技术的限制。
面对生育,似乎年轻女性很容易感到焦虑。
但,生育真的是一件令人焦虑的事情么?
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李羱心中的小家庭,有着平淡的温馨氛围。
没步入婚姻时,她想象的生活就是老公的早出晚归,以及自己与小孩的一日三餐。
“当这一切成为现实后,我不免也有过焦虑。筹备婚礼、孕育小孩......这些繁琐的事情,很容易让人产生负面情绪。”
虽然嘴上说着焦虑的话题,但她语气反而很坚定:“不过,还好不是我一个人去战斗,家庭的支持和共同努力才是推动进程的主要力量。”
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从步入婚姻,到孕育宝贝,邹邹从来都是顺心而为。
“其实我挺怀念我孕期的时光。家人、特别是老公,他们对我的照顾,可以说是无微不至。正是他们的宠爱,我才能在孕期放飞自己,再胖、再丑都觉得充满幸福。”
她将孕育的过程,比作生产爱的方式。小宝贝的诞生,成为了她的发电机,让她成为更好的自己,也让她有足够的动力去追逐更好的生活。
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成年人的责任心与担当,是Chris在婚后才体会到的。
在生小宝宝前,她只是一个柔软的小女人,有了小孩之后,她渐渐也学会坚强起来。
虽然她是一位内心敏感的女性,但她在孕期并没有感受到太大压力:“可能是我心比较大吧,反正我在怀孕过程中感觉每一天都是幸福的。”
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“向往的生活?是有个带草坪的小屋,加上幸福的一家六口——我、老公、两个宝贝、猫、狗。”
带着少女的口吻,冰冰一一细数这些幸福的画面。即使这些对婚后生活的想象,来源于百度云盘里的欧美电影,也不能阻止她开心的笑脸。
正在经历孕期的她,没有半分焦躁的情绪:“物质生活、身体变化这些事情不会一成不变,这一点有没有宝宝都一样。生育对于人生而言,只是让你有了一辈子的牵挂。”
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郭薇设想过一百种孕期解压的方法,万万没有预料到,她孕期最大的压力,竟然源于宝贝对内脏的重压。
除此之外,吃喝玩乐,十分愉悦。
“以前就想自己一定要玩的率性开心,结果没有料到,有了宝宝以后秒变儿子迷妹!”
不仅如此,她还打趣到,怀孕就像一场二次发育,把宽容和耐心全数补回到她的身体中。
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“其实,许多妈妈们会感到孕期焦虑,这是很正常的现象。”高子钧的孕期状态非常放松,虽然她跟大多数孕妇一样,孕期会减少外出,尽量待在安全的室内。
不过热爱运动的她,在孕期时也会活动活动身体:“虽然我比较瘦,但是为了我和宝宝的健康,还是应该进行必要的运动。况且,运动完之后,整个人的状态都会很轻松,一些负面情绪也会消失殆尽。”
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“两个宝贝,一直是我的梦想。现在也算如愿以偿了。”唐宋感觉除了幸福这个词,她找不出更精确的言语来形容这段时光。
从大宝的诞生,小夫妻的不太适应,到二宝的孕育,两人的轻车熟路,这一路太多的感触可言。最大的收获,就是二人得以更加理解对方。
当然孩子的出生,改变的不只是家庭人口数量,更多的是令她学会用柔软去触碰世界,习惯用温柔去包容一切。
